Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

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We’ve put together this FAQ to assist you with any questions you might have. If you have one that isn’t covered, please ask it in the comments, or contact us privately at!

About WEEHU 2016

Where did the extra “E” in WEEHU come from?

WEEHU was inspired by NEEHU, the New England Erotic Hypnosis Unconference, which was the first event of its kind (and is still going strong). We decided to play with the recognizable acronym. Maybe the extra E is for WEstern, or for “extra,” “extremely,” “especially,” “enthusiastic,” etc.

What events are happening where?

All official con events, excluding meals taken at local restaurants, and a field trip on Monday the 12th, will be happening at the con hotel.

Are we booking our hotel rooms through you, like last year?

No–you’re booking directly with the hotel. Rooms are $197 per night plus tax; suites are $229 per night plus tax. Book your room by calling directly to (650) 654-4000, and mention you are with the WEEHU group. The hotel is entirely reserved for us that weekend, so if you don’t mention it, you will likely be told the hotel is full.

Can you help me find a roommate?

Yes. Please post on this thread on Fetlife.

Does the con serve food?

Yes, but not enough to live on. Snacks and drinks will be provided throughout the con, and if you stay at the hotel, a buffet breakfast is included each morning. Beyond that, we’ll be organizing outings to local restaurants, or group delivery orders, for lunch and dinner. If you are operating on a shoestring budget and you are staying at the hotel, all rooms do have microwaves and a mini-fridge. If just attending for the day, needing to bring your own food, and you require a place to keep something cold, ask the folks at reg: we may be able to store stuff in one of the volunteer suites or similar.

Does the con accommodate people with disabilities?

To the best of our own abilities, yes. The hotel has ADA accessible rooms, and there should be similar access for all events at the hotel. If you need an ASL interpreter, please contact us as far as advance as possible and we will do our best to get one for you. We also try to take into account things like sensory sensitivities when planning the parties.

Is it safe?

We work hard to create an environment where people feel safe, secure and respected. No attendee will be required to attend or participate in any activity. All con events, parties and presentations are optional. WEEHU has clear rules governing behavior of attendees to help everyone feel comfortable. Attendees are held responsible for respecting other people’s limits and being clear about their own.

I have never been to a kink-friendly, sex-positive event before. What is it like?

WEEHU is attended by people of a variety of ethnicities, genders, gender presentations, sexual orientations, relationship types, relationship statuses, ages and backgrounds, with all manner of fetishes and kinks. All are welcome. You should expect people to be respectful and friendly in their interactions with you.

During the day, it will mostly be hypnosis, socializing and classes, but you may see a variety of kinky play going on, with people in various states of undress. You may see people having sexualized or kinky interactions such as having hypnotic orgasms, bondage, wearing collars, latex, calling each other by titles, using protocol, etc.

During the parties, expect to see all manner of play & intensity, including sex. There may be bondage equipment such as spanking benches, restraint devices, St. Andrew’s crosses, etc. It is totally okay to politely, quietly watch from a respectful distance as long as you aren’t blocking access to play furniture when doing so. If you want to avoid seeing a heavy scene or graphic sex, wander on to another room. Some party rooms will be mostly socializing but you will still likely see nudity and lower-intensity play there as well, such as aftercare or snuggling.

The hotel lobby & eating area will always be a largely vanilla space.

Are there day passes?

Short answer: No. All tickets are for the full weekend. You are, of course, welcome to attend as little or as much of the event as you like. Long answer: If you really can only make it for an afternoon or evening, and you contact us in advance, we may be able to make some accommodation for you.

Can I get a discount?

Discounted or comped admission is available to volunteers and scholarship recipients. Please visit those pages on our website for more info on details and deadlines.

Can I get a refund?

Short answer: No. Long answer: Please talk with us at least a week in advance, and we will see what we can do to help you!

What makes it an Unconference?

We use the term somewhat loosely; unlike many unconferences, our presentation schedule is mostly planned in advance. However, we will have an Unconference-only period on the Sunday morning of the con, for content brainstormed or requested on-site. If you have a particular topic you’d like to learn more about, or one you think people would like to present on, join us at 10:30am Sunday morning!

Can you tell me about the play parties?

Absolutely! We will have play parties happening on the 3rd floor of the hotel on Friday and Saturday nights, after dinner until late. All 4 of our classrooms on that floor will be converted into playspaces, and our con hospitality room(s) will also be open for social space and hydrating/snacking. (Hypnosis can happen in the hospitality suite but we prefer it to stay on the lighthearted/playful side of the spectrum). We also may have some social activities going on in the conference room downstairs.

We may be having some special events/scheduled demos during the first few hours of the parties. Please check the schedule for more info on that, as the event approaches.

You will also be welcome to open up your room and have it become part of the party! However, unless your room is on the 3rd floor, the party cannot spill out into the hallway and people will need to be dressed vanilla-friendly when going to/from your room! On the 3rd floor, you can prop your door wide open. On the 1st or 2nd floor, you can put a sign about the party on the door, and leave it open a crack.

Private rooms like yours are allowed to have their own special rules or themes (i.e. “This room is only for playing Hypnotic Twister,” “Everyone in this room has to keep their clothes on,” “I’m kicking everyone out at 11pm so I can have some private playtime,” etc.) as long as those rules/themes don’t conflict with the rules of the con. If a party is private or invite-only, it needs to have a closed door.

We encourage and allow all flavors of play at our parties. We will have 2 rooms especially set up for less-intense play such as gentle hypnosis scenes, snuggling, aftercare, light sensation play, sensual rope, etc., and 2 rooms meant for more intense or loud scenes such as S&M, more intense sensation, edge play, orgasmic torture, etc. etc.

We will have Dungeon Monitors available to provide assistance and information to people, and protect life/limb/hotel property, but they will not interrupt scenes unless it’s for a very serious or urgent reasons. If you have interest in/concerns or questions about someone else’s scene, it is not okay to interrupt them but you are encouraged to ask a Monitor and/or bring the scene to their attention.

What kind of play can’t I do at the parties?

Keep fluids contained.
No play that will set off hotel smoke alarms.
No play that will potentially damage hotel property.
No photography or video recording unless in a private hotel room with the agreement of all present.
Clearly intoxicated people will be sent out of public play areas to sleep it off!

If you are commencing a scene that you think many observers would find edgy or disturbing, we strongly encourage you to tell a DM what you’re planning before you begin. You don’t need their permission, but you will be making their job much easier.

Can you tell me about the layout of the con?

Sure. When you walk into the hotel there is a big lobby with the front desk on the right-hand side. Just past that is a big dining area. If you/we want to order food in, or get a break from the intensity of the 3rd floor, this is a great place to hang out. We will have someone there checking badges, and at some times this may be a vendor area.

To the right of the dining area is a big conference room. Some classes will be held there. You will have to pass through the vanilla space of the lobby to get to them, so keep that in mind.

Moving on up to the 3rd floor: This is where all the rest of the classes are held, and it’s the party floor. All con space on this floor will be clearly marked and have a propped open door unless a door is closed for classes or it is before/after con hours. The hospitality room, where you can store your things if just visiting for the day, and/or get something to snack on or drink, is right across from the elevator.

The 3rd floor is 1 straight-line hallway. Our classrooms are the 4 suites on the floor. There are 2 of them on each end of the hallway.

We may have some vendors or information tables set up in the hall, and we’ll have a big copy of the con schedule grid set up on the hallway wall.

How do I pick up my badge, and/or register onsite?

There will be signs in the hotel directing you to a registration and badge pick-up desk. It will be on the ground floor during the busiest arrival times at the con, but may be migrating up to the 3rd floor on, say, Saturday afternoon.

If you are registering on-site, we will be accepting cash or credit cards. No checks, please. Processed card payments will be showing up on your credit card or bank statement as something discreet that cannot be readily recognized as payment to a sexy or kinky event.

This year the hotel is handling room booking directly, so go to them to check in. The hotel knows what our event is and you do not have to be discreet when talking about it. If you have any further difficulties checking in, talk to folks at the con reg desk!

If I need to change something about my hotel room reservation, how do I do that?

Call the hotel! Unlike last year, the hotel is handling room reservations directly.

Can I vend at WEEHU? Can you talk to me about vending?

We welcome vendors to WEEHU. There is no charge to vend this year. You can sell anything hypnosis or kink-related, OR anything that is handmade by you that you feel our attendees would be interested in. (As much as we think it would be amusing to have a Stepford Wives-style tupper-ware party, please don’t do that unless it’s a play scene and not an actual moneymaking venture!)

If you’d like to vend out of your room, you may do that all weekend if you like! Feel free to put a sign on your door.

Vending in the hallway will be both Friday and Saturday nights during the party. We will provide table space but cannot provide volunteers to help vend for you.

People staying onsite are welcome to vend directly out of their rooms any time they want.

What’s happening on Thursday?

We start to do some con setup and load-in on Thursday afternoon. Thursday evening, we have an earlybird dinner, and there are some informal gatherings and maybe even introductory classes in the evening.

Can you tell me about Monday’s field trip?

Yes. We are having an end-of-con field trip to San Francisco on Monday after the con, from roughly noon until dinnertime. We try to be budget-conscious about what activities we choose You’re welcome to attend for all or some of it, your schedule allowing. We will have a ride share signup form posted by Saturday so that you can offer or find a ride, as we will not be providing a shuttle or other mass transportation.

Last year, we went to Wicked Grounds (a kinky cafe in SF), Mr. S Leather, Leather Etc, visited the buffalo & flycasting pools in Golden Gate Park, and had a hole-in-the-wall Vietnamese dinner together. This year, we will likely go to the zoo or a museum.

Where can I park?

Parking is free in the hotel parking lot for hotel guests. If you’re just visiting the con for the day, there is relatively easy street parking in the surrounding neighborhood, and a limited amount of guest parking at the hotel itself.

Public transit options to the venue?

The best public-transit way to access the hotel is via Caltrain. Belmont Station is a 12-minute walk away. If you are coming from anywhere on the BART line, you can transfer to Caltrain at Millbrae station–Belmont is only a couple stops south.

How do I get from the airport to the hotel?

The fastest way would be via cab, Lyft, or Uber, or via finding someone in our Fetlife group to give you a ride. The hotel is a 15 minute drive from the airport; cab rates would be about $40, Lyft would be about $28.

The public transit option is straightforward, but involves more steps: Take BART to Millbrae. Once at Millbrae, transfer to Caltrain and take it to Belmont. The hotel is a 12 minute walk from Belmont Station.

What is the age minimum for WEEHU?

The age minimum is 18.

Will there be nudity or sex at the con?

Yes and yes, though relatively little of either (depending on how you define these things) during class time vs. at the parties. Nudity is only allowed on the 3rd floor or inside the conference room–the rest of the hotel is vanilla space.

Can I play or practice trance during class time?

Yes, provided (of course) that it doesn’t disrupt classes or other scenes.

I don’t consider myself kinky, but I’m interested in hypnosis. Is this con a good fit for me?

Yes, we have many classes that are hypnosis-only, and there will be other attendees like you! This would also be a friendly no-pressure environment for you to learn more about kink and kinky people. However: if you’re uncomfortable seeing other people be kinky or talk about kink, this may be outside of your comfort zone.

I have zero experience with hypnosis, but am curious. Is this con a good fit for me?

Yes, we have a strong 101 track and lots of friendly people very interested in mentoring and education! Prior attendees have reported to us that they learned more in that one weekend than they could have learned through a year of solo research and practice.

I have zero interest in becoming a hypnotist, but I want to be hypnotized. Is this con a good fit for me?

Yes! Not only will there be many opportunities to volunteer as a demo subject in classes, and social opportunities to meet available hypnotists, but we also have many classes for subjects!

How are your presenters selected?

If I want to present, how would I go about that?

If you want to present for us, your first step should be to contact us at and let us know. We’ll talk from there.

Presenters are selected through a variety of ways:

  • We invite great presenters from prior years to return.
  • We approach people who gave great presentations at other events we attended (our monthly meetups, NEEHU, MEEHU, or other kinky events that had crossover content) and invite them to present * for us.
  • We invite presenters who were highly recommended by others in the hypnokink community.
  • We issue an informal call for presentations in our Fetlife group.
  • Potential presenters who hear about our event contact us privately.

Our presenters’ list is curated: not everyone who applies to the event is accepted, and not all presentations they would like to offer end up on the schedule. Some considerations we take into account are:

  • What are their skills as a presenter?
  • Does their offered material fill a unique and/or needed niche in the con’s program?
  • Does their offered material complement or fit closely enough to our focus on erotic hypnosis?

If someone approaches us to present, and we aren’t familiar with them and/or have never seen them teach, we may ask them to send us a sample video of one of their classes, give a demo presentation with us in person or via video chat, and/or provide references from someone else in the erotic hypnosis or overall kink community.

We reserve the right, at any time, for any reason (stated or unstated) to refuse to allow someone to present.

Please be aware, up front, that WEEHU does not have a default compensation package for presenters: our presenters usually pay their own way to attend, just like any other person at the con. Our event operates on a shoestring budget that prioritizes community-building and affordability above all else. However, depending on the material on offer and the amount of financial need, we also do our best to accommodate presenters’ financial requirements. So, if you need some level of financial contribution or assistance from us to get you to WEEHU, don’t be afraid to talk to us, but please be aware that our resources are very limited.

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